Parenting 2

This is a continuation of the previous blog on parenting, as the cannot be discussed in a single blog and will require furthermore. Parent practice their authority by setting limits and allowing their children to learn from consequences set the necessary rules and limits and let the face the result if they do not follow the rules.  While learning from experiences the children may be bitter, but they teach the kids the lesson that words and worries will never do. It doesn't work when we get mad or feel overly responsible when the children don't do what we like. Our children learn wisdom, discipline, and responsibility through limits and consequences it is especially important when children are young we provide more structure in the form of clear limits and boundaries that allow them to become more and more self-governing as they grow. Some parents practice the reverse of this they do not do it when their children are young and later they have to impose more control as the kid gets older. This usually sets them to continuously test the limits, but if they learn from the consequences at a young age they become more Independent and self-governing and they do not need many rules and limits later. These boundaries should be set by parents as there are different beliefs in each, family some family is liberal and some are strict. More important than setting boundaries is their enforcement it is extremely important we enforce them with action, not words we use that really give away our power by reminding, lecturing, and nagging instead of taking action. Children should know that parents will take action when they violate their boundaries. We need to act without anger, guilt, or pity, immediately and consistently. By doing so what we are actually doing is teaching our children, how the world works we make choices and their consequences. These consequences are the reason behind we make good choices as an adult and we are teaching our children the same principle. With establish and follow through consequences on day-to-day activities. 

Our children or inherently capable, trustworthy, and good. initially, they may seem to be immature emotionally, mentally, and socially. They may act in a selfish way and make wrong choices. We sometimes witness and behave according to their actions and make judgments based on their behavior for further. This sets us up to interact as if what we have observed is the only truth or children that are untrustworthy, and incapable. And instead of helping them learn and grow, we reinforce negative messages which become part of their identity.

We need to change the way we speak about the kids and think of them. Believing in them make it easier for them to succeed if we make positive assumptions. our most deeply held beliefs become self-fulfilling they allow us to communicate respect and trust towards our kids instead of fear and lack of trust naturally they contribute to our children's worth and built self-confidence they mostly depend upon the situations still some of them are here, "my child is a capable student. My child is inherently good and I trust my child fully. My child labs to do the right things my child is honest. My child may make mistakes while learning. I feel happy to help my child learn and grow."

We handle situations according to our core beliefs differently if we practice making positive assumptions we will be more successful we can channel their energy in the correct way if we are a little attention to them it is not about the problem it is about seeing the reality of behavior of the child which may be wrapped with inadequacy and self-protection learn to trust and connect with them the goodness within our children is the principle of parenting.

Our children expect love and concern of worth to come from the love and affection the kid receive from family. A child even after meeting his physical needs completely if doesn't receive a large dose of touch, smile, affirming words, and eye contact are likely to grow severely emotionally or mentally handicapped. This expectation of love and affection continues throughout the lives attachment and connection give life its greatest meaning. So we have the largest responsibility to help them feel our love and affection this is the only way we can get along with our kids in Storms of life and Harsh moments. being emotionally sensitive and responsive to their needs and experience is nonpossessive care along with attention is a unique way. Yes, this is not easy, we offer them affection and love at the same time they need to open their hearts to receive it.  we can connect the most important of it is empathetic listening, Specific appreciation, and nonjudgment.

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We are imperfect and that is okay this is part of nature, when we believe that we have to be perfect we harm ourselves and our children causing them expectations that are not realistic we always are in stress about what to do maturely to be lovable. Still, we fall short to be perfect through performing and proving. This detaches us from the feeling of love and acceptance with Desire this perfectionism is carried to our children they conclude that they are not loved for who they are but for who their parents want them to be. Instead of this if we switch to acceptance we can connect with the kids when they make mistakes and still will love them. besides they tend to be ready to share as they are sure of their parent's acceptance quality and when parents accept their mistakes they are like "let it go instead of ego" for the mistakes of their parents.

The remaining portion of parenting principles and their application will discuss in the upcoming blog.

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