Parenting 1

In the last blog, we have seen types of parenting now we will discuss what's parenting and the principles of  Parenting we may require two or more blogs on the topic.

we need to grow first for successful parenting.

our children's behavior is not that big challenge, the biggest challenge is our own emotional reactivity or words, and actions that cause our children to become defensive, self-protective and they fail to learn from mistakes we try to solve their problems a lot many times and keep them from gaining experience on their own. it's not about getting our children to be different but to ourselves outstanding. They need Parents who are calm and loving yet firm and consistent. unfortunately, we choose lecturing, nagging, scolding, and criticizing over positive communication to motivate them, yes there is a reason behind this, we get the immediate reward of it, and the unwanted behavior of children stops but just for time being in long run, these things do no good this cycle continues and unintentionally we instill negativity in our kids as we enforce the behaviors we want to eliminate.

We are ought to learn to pause and focus more on our own response instead of our children's behaviour behavior can influence but not control we can do this thing in three ways ignore the attention-seeking behaviour of children and focus on changing that we can control and that is an enforcing consequence. inspit of behaviour and mood of childrenutilizatione utilization of positive strengthening communication as well as strategies those will help our children grow mature and take responsibility.

What we do by changing our behaviour, is we become less volatile. Our children feel relaxed which makes children easier to talk to us since we respect ourselves we set boundaries and that treat the children with respect on top of that teach certainly our children to respect us their response is the way we have made a change in how we communicate with our family member there response is of our behaviour and communication.

This clearly means we need to be careful of our behavior and response to their reaction. what are we doing that is working or not working in long run by we let go of our defensiveness?

   Parenting is a journey where growing ourselves is our first priority. Not just as parents but as an individual will surely have a lasting influence over children than the techniques, and theories we teach our kids.

we as parents are the authority for our home.

Children need guidance and boundaries loving parents set boundaries for children as well as for themselves they are honest to rules and boundaries to follow them hence.

Over a period Of time as the kids are watching their family members consistently they tend to understand the boundaries and follow them willfully. in many families parents have lost their authority whereas they themselves grew up in Authoritarian parenting which is a strict parenting environment and they have moved to a permissive parenting environment this is actually good, parents are more involved in children and have a better rapport with their children than ever before but it has occurred at the highest extent they have become too indulgent that they are working so hard to keep their children happy and make their life easy. The intention is not to  revert this but we need to establish a structure that includes traditions expectations and routines to teach our children appropriate behaviour and personal responsibility

life is not easy, it places demands and also includes, physical emotional, and mental suffering as our kids experience the challenge of life at an early age just like things don't go their way other kids have nice toys, learning takes effort, some rejections, sometimes nagging It is painful for us to watch our kids struggle, but this is how we gain courage, faith in ourself, discipline, and good character. These daily doses of struggles are teaching us every single aspect of our life, and with this, we discovered our strengths and achieve our potential.

there are some reasons why we tend to intervene to make kids' life easier one is we do not trust the capacity of our children fullest and we do not know how to how support them facing challenges we don't let them struggle to run, climb, play games that are hard, we do much of their homework we overreact if the child falls, many times when the kid seems to fall. By doing so we foster an entitlement mentality and that's where he fails to help them face the reality and take daily responsibility for their life. Along with the above factors Opulent lifestyle and the rise of Technology has put information and entertainment at our fingertips youth doesn't have to work for what they get and the stream of distraction and entertainment is never ending hence they do not experience delayed gratification they do not feel genuine about the connection between their hard on efforts and their rewards. We should never feel guilty about letting our children struggle to learn the lessons of life. As life does not offer free rides and life will not be so easy for them. Children need to learn we need to trust them and give them space to struggle and let them experience consequences but of course, stand with them firmly.

The remaining part of this will discuss in the next blog.

Thank you.

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